Dreams In Thyme

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

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—	Bob Marley

A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.

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—	Richard Bach

Ramblings of a Woman: Loud Silences

Silence is golden, or so the saying goes.

For me some silences are quite lovely and yet some silence is The Silent Scream to many and there are others that are a hell for me.

Stupid you might say. Enjoy the silence whilst you can.

I do enjoy the silence of and in nature, the silent household when everyone else is snug in their beds sleeping, the silence of a shower or bath to relax in. All these I do enjoy.

But some silences leave me thinking the worst, whilst still others are like a klaxon in my head. Silence so loud and painful my spirit starts to shrivel with it.

My family loved to use The Silent Treatment on each other, yet in my house voices were either raised (my Dad) or it got quiet voiced (Mom) and doors and cabinets, dishes, pots and pans slammed and clanged in a passive aggressive “silence” that made tensions higher than a sensitive kid like I was could handle.

When this happened, the yelling or Noisy Silences, I headed for the backyard and my trees or when I had a room of my own I escaped to books and music.

I am silent only if I am terribly upset or I am deep in thought. I let my daughters know which is which so they do not think I am upset with them. I am silent also in mediation and my yoga.

We are big on communication and promoting deeper understanding my daughters and I. (Their father is a terrible communicator and is more passive aggressive than my mother was.)

So the girls and I, we talk often and yet we all enjoy the silence or “Quiet Times”. To recharge our soul batteries, to rest our busy minds, to be alone within ourselves. All are healthy for a person.

I do love those sweet and beautiful Companionable Silences. The rare kind where with a look or touch you can express all that is in you at that place in time. I long for those someday. I long for that kind of intimacy and loving understanding, to give it to the Him that I am with in my life.

I still hope for things like that even as I think it is not going to happen for such as I. I get these thoughts and I try my utmost to send them away like a strong wind with clouds on a pretty day. They are not always cooperative.

I hope to make better friends with certain silences, to not fear other kinds of silence, and to understand other folks silences also.

I am trying is all I can say. But a lot of times they make me worried and sad. My issues there.

Enjoy the Silences as you will & Thanks for “listening”.

Shine Dark,
Starra

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“Silence is so freaking loud”
― Sarah Dessen, Just Listen

“I don’t want to be married just to be married. I can’t think of anything lonelier than spending the rest of my life with someone I can’t talk to, or worse, someone I can’t be silent with.”
― Mary Ann Shaffer, The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society

“I have never heard a more eloquent silence.”
― Laurie Halse Anderson, Speak

“…I like it when it rains hard. It sounds like white noise everywhere, which is like silence but not empty.”
― Mark Haddon, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time

“Skies are crying,
I am watching,
Catching teardrops in my hands.
Only silence, as it’s ending,
Like we never had a chance.
Do you have to make me feel
Like there’s nothing left of me?”
― Demi Lovato

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One grand boulevard with trees
with one grand cafe in sun
with strong black coffee in very small cups.

One not necessarily very beautiful
man or woman who loves you.

One fine day.

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—	Lawrence Ferlinghetti - (via rd1960)

Calling yourself a witch and holding rituals is one thing, being one is another.

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—	Mia, in Nora Roberts “Dance Upon the Air”

Life is the miracle, creation is within you, you are the artist of your life.

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—	Starra, Le Minx

“A Writer must Write, a Artist must Art, a Musician must Music…” -Starra, Le Minx

Ah well heck, it is my quote.. I’ll be as improper grammar-wise as I like.

Today I affirm that there is nothing in me but love. This love comes from total acceptance of myself and the understanding that I am a perfectly imperfect human being. I will walk through today and allow myself to fully express my perfection. I realize that all my “faults” are actually the Universe’s unique way of expressing itself through me. I let go of self judgment and any projected judgments of others that I have chosen to believe and finally allow myself to just be what I truly am: infinite. As this is true for me, so it is true for all other beings on the planet. I will choose to accept everyone in my life with the same radical acceptance I have for myself knowing that we are all perfectly imperfect human beings simply doing the best we can.

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—	Jackson Kiddard (via emotional-algebra)

Keep your faith in beautiful things;
in the sun when it is hidden,
in the Spring when it is gone.

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—	Roy R. Gibson

A man’s kiss is his signature.

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—	Mae West (my house Goddess)

Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.

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—	Pooh’s Little Instruction Book, inspired by A.A. Milne

Life is for deep kisses,
strange adventures,
midnight swims, and
rambling conversations

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—	Etiquette for a Lady (via waitingforteaagain)

However good or bad you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the “right” person, because he or she is a mirror of who you are inside.

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—	Deepak Chopra

Each and еvеrу relationship, іn adulthood, takes twо active wіӏlіng participants аnd іf іt iѕ to bе rеlatiѵеӏy healthy іt requires mutuality, reciprocity, respect, and boundaries.

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—	BPD Secrets (Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6191568)