I am learning to live a bit more Zen, though I am a Celtic witch and warrior-ess. I do not look for a fight, but the Irish are known as brawlers. This double Irish woman is not much of a drinker (I hear the Ancestors gasp!), and I only fight for those whom others are seeking to beat down. You have top really hurt me, or push me in a corner to get my Irish up for myself. Or as a Scorpio get my stinger activated. Gods help you if these things happen, my temper is not pretty. Hence why I seek Zen ways, and to truly Be & Live Peace (fully).
I often think the Statue of Liberty ought to join up with the Goddess Themis, also known as Justice. (but Themis wears no blindfold - blame the patriarchy for that gosh awful blinding of true Justice) To Illuminate and gather in the poor and downtrodden is what Liberty says she is about. The Greek Goddess Themis is about Balance and Defending these same folks, as well as those whom seek Her help. She is a fierce but fair deity.
Together they’d make a Great Big Difference IMHO in our whole world, nit just The USA.
In life and love I seek to be in Balance. I think often of the symbols of balance, such as the Yin-Yang, the old-style weighing Scales.
The world as we know it seems so out of balance. The media certainly plays it that way. There are so many fatalists and alarmists out there that want you to live in fear, thinking you are in lack too.
Yet there is no lack unless you think there is. In this world of ours there is enough for everyone. Be it money, food, love… it is there. We are in need of a shift of consciousness. I certainly have been challenged by these thoughts of balance. I am not a Buddhist, but I am a spiritual person that has sought serenity and balance for a long while.
“Be content with what you have;
rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
the whole world belongs to you.”
― Lao Tzu
In the loving mature relationship I am in with K. I am learning a great deal from and with Him. I like that He does not feel we need to agree on everything, likes that I challenge His thinking too, and that we both laugh together over all sorts of things is a wonderful aspect of our relationship. We have long conversations on health, healing, what money means to us, what true wealth is. And we talk about the mundane things in my family life. It is a interesting time in my life and in His. New things, new thoughts and new feelings too. All that are bringing us into a Balance Life and Loving Place. We state no matter what is going on that day that “It is all good.”
And it really is. It is all about Our Perspectives.
In my perspective, I am alive, I am Loved, by K., my kids, family & friends. I have a roof over my head, and I am a self-aware person. I see good in others, I seek to be a better person, I write my truths, and I am growing in spiritual and philosophical ways. My health is improving. My mind is stretching. Life is getting better.
The facts are these: Not a lot has changed except me.
In relationships and life, I believe now that I was too high or too low in past relationships. I gave too much, or I pulled away from giving because I had to for self-preservation. Life is not always what we think of as fair. Love hurts because when we open ourselves up to it we are vulnerable. In love you need to be open to the giving and receiving, both of you. If one is closed off, well there is no true or good balance there. In time it wears the Giver out. The one not giving gets all your time, energy, and you get very little in return. Love is a 2 way street. Do not let anyone tell you differently. If they do not return love, well delete these Takers or Users from your life as you would a negative follower or friend online.
It really is as simple as that. No one should allow toxic or negative folks in there lives willingly. Unless you like to be abused do not tolerate this. You do not have to put up with negative persons. The decision is yours what you can and will tolerate or put up with in any of your relationships.
It took me awhile to realise this, and some more time to disentangle my life from others, and from a marriage gone bad. Then I had a couple of years of realising my true self worth. I allowed others to love me in a way out of balance way. I was accepting the “love” I thought I deserved. I was not loving myself enough yet to realise I deserved as much as I was willing to give; which is a whole heck of a lot indeed!
Only with K. have I found what I needed as well as deserved. We are equal partners but as a submissive spirit I will seek to honour Him in ways that are a much more D/s than Vanilla. ;)
He understands a lot about me, accepts all of me, and loves me for me. I feel and do the same with and for Him.
We want a Balanced Life, and thus our relationship is Balanced. Same for the fact we both crave Serenity and Simplicity. He is a lot more Zen than I am, or than I think I will ever be. But I have always respected Buddhism, and I am reading Lao Tzu and the Tào Té Chīng.
I will always be a Witch first. But there is need for Balance in that Path also.
I sought Balance, and I found it and it found me. It was truths within and most Truths are found within. We strive to find things “Out There” so much we have forgotten to be silent; thus we miss the small still voices of our own souls and psyches. These are Our Truths and inside too is where you will find Deity. The spark of the Divine and/or Cosmos-Universe is within all of us.. for are we not all made up of Star Stuff?! Carl Sagan believed we were. It makes sense to me.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu
I am indeed deeply loved, I indeed deeply love Him. We are stepping into a new life Together with strength and courage. It is indeed All Good. And so it is all good with my heart and soul.